My Reflections, My Style, Personal Development

5 Lessons I’ve learnt from blogging

lessons from blogging

Location: Maputo, Mozambique

I keep reminiscing about how 2017 was a very special year for me – especially in the scope of blogging. It was the year in which I fully immersed myself into improving the quality of my content, making it more relevant and inspiring for you. All the previous years of trial and error are finally yielding something I’m proud of. I haven’t fully mastered my craft yet but I thought I would share some key lessons blogging has taught me so far.

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Practice improves skills

I used to admire bloggers with beautifully written reflections on their sites. Articles that were engaging, inspiring and had me wanting to read more. Thinking that I would never be able to create something of that level, it wasn’t until I gave it a try that I realized I was wrong. Practice makes perfect. I must confess I’m impressed at how much my writing has evolved. Part of the credit goes to finding a niche and a voice. By deciding on what I want to communicate, I’ve been able to put effort in improving my vocabulary and sentence building. English isn’t my first language, but at this point I believe it’s the one in which I write best.

Aside from writing, my eye for photography (and locations) has also improved. What I deemed to be a good photo a year ago, wouldn’t make the cut today. Constantly observing bloggers with a style of photography I admire is part of the reason I’ve improved my own.

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You get what you give

Engage and get engagement. Compliment and get compliments. Visit and get visits – it’s that simple. And although I’ve known this rule for long, I only began to practice it last year. During my university days I was eternally depressed. Blogging was my happy gate-away, but it was almost impossible for me to set aside time to visit and engage with other bloggers. On my spare hours all I wanted to do sleep deeply to recover from badly executed assignments. Most of my posts before March ’17 have no comments. Since that date though, I’ve been giving and getting. Nothing makes me happier than reading your positive and uplifting words.

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Confidence becomes a MUST

This is hands down the best trait blogging has developed in me – confidence. Not only confidence to show my face and my body, but to also share my thoughts, my ideas and my personal opinions.


It takes confidence to carry on posing while everyone stares.

It takes confidence to write your heart.

It takes confidence to press publish.

It takes confidence to be a blogger.

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There’s space for everyone

Granted everyone sticks to being themselves. For instance no one is me. No one has my vision nor my writing and photography ideas. Same applies to you! By going around the community I often bump into blogs that are pure underrated gems. The content is so enriching that my memory instantly saves the blog’s name. Just like we watch many series and remember the name of all the characters. If something is relevant, it will be recognized.

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The more you create, the more creative you become

I believe time and wisdom serve us with improved creativity.

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Let me know your thoughts on the comments below!

And if you’re a blogger, what lesson has blogging taught you?



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Yara Mel

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  • Reply Jani

    Wow Yara, I just found your blog and this was the first thing I’ve read and I can identify so much with EVERYTHING you have written here! I have been on this journey for about 2 years now and I have learned a lot. Pretty similar to your journey. I have now finally been able to get more into photography and I love the exhilarating feeling of being out there making something so beautiful and feeling confident in my skin.

    Thank you so much for sharing these!

    Jani from

    February 14, 2018 at 2:15 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Aww Jani! I’m glad it’s relatable. Thank you so much, will check your blog now! 🙂

      February 14, 2018 at 10:12 am
  • Reply Hena

    Oh you look great!
    Great tips.

    February 9, 2018 at 7:11 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Hena! x

      February 10, 2018 at 4:03 pm
  • Reply PerlaGiselle

    I completely agree with everything you mentioned in this post! I need to be consistent with blogging because it brings so much satisfaction when I am able to interact with others. It feels good to share with others, but even better to be inspired, so thank you!

    February 6, 2018 at 4:09 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Couldn’t agree more! Consistency is key. 🙂 Thanks dear xx

      February 6, 2018 at 11:20 am
  • Reply Coco

    I love the way you’ve written this. I’m so glad I found your blog. You are so write. Blogging is so raw and exposed and vulnerable. It takes a lot to put yourself out there. I also miss being more involved in the blogging community. I genuinely love reading people’s thoughts and interacting with readers and bloggers, but I had been going through a lot and my blogging suffered as a result. I’m getting back into it now. 🙂

    February 6, 2018 at 2:22 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I can imagine. It’s not easy to make time for blogging when things aren’t right in other aspects of life. Hope you can get there soon!! 🙂 thank you.

      February 6, 2018 at 11:21 am
  • Reply Rubi

    Awesome post Yara, you look so stunning! I am totally with you and I used to do the same thing where I would compare my blog to a much bigger blogger who has been doing it for longer than me. I learnt that comparison achieves nothing. As you said, practice makes for imporvement!
    x Rubi
    Pose & Repeat

    February 5, 2018 at 10:39 pm
  • Reply Desire Uba

    You are amazing Yara.
    I have had my blog for about a year now, and I still honsetly don’t really see myself as a ‘blogger’, maybe because I feel like I haven’t quite found my niche. I am still happy though, that I get to put my thoughts into words, and have people relate to them, it makes me feel so happy!
    Thank you so much also, for visiting and commenting on my blog, I really appreciate it.
    PS. These pictures and the entire layout of this post is stunning!!

    February 4, 2018 at 8:04 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear! Exactly, having people relate to what you write brings such great feeling 😀

      February 5, 2018 at 1:05 pm
  • Reply Jenny

    Your outfit is just stunning, and I couldn’t have agreed more with everything you’ve written! For a while I didn’t focus on engagement either, and I realized I wasn’t just missing out on marketing opportunities, but also connecting with all these other amazing bloggers out there! For me one of the most rewarding things about blogging is the community and relationships we build 🙂

    Jenny | Geeky Posh

    February 4, 2018 at 7:58 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Couldn’t agree more Jenny 😀 Thank you! xx

      February 5, 2018 at 1:04 pm
  • Reply Alyssa

    As a blogger, I do find myself more creative now than I was back in college studying Multimedia Arts. And yes, there’s space for everyone 🙂 The internet is a vast space. Anyway, I love your look from head to toe, you look stunning!

    xx Alyssa | STYLE VANITY

    February 4, 2018 at 9:31 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Nice to know 😀 Thanks Alyssa!!

      February 5, 2018 at 1:06 pm
  • Reply Ankita

    Ahhh what a strikingly stunning outfit, you look super gorgeous hun! I totally agree with the points you shared. Especially the more you create, the more creative you become! At first when I started blogging I was crazily intimidated by all the lovely bloggers and perfect their styling, picture direction, writing, everything is!! But as I kept trying and trying, I could see some improvements, I am nowhere close to where I want to be, but I am trying 🙂
    Have a great weekend!

    February 2, 2018 at 9:31 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      It’s amazing to read that Ankita! Your blog is great. Thanks a lot 🙂

      February 2, 2018 at 10:46 pm
  • Reply Gabrielle

    Adore this striking all-white outfit on you, very chic! Love reading about what you’ve learnt from blogging so far; totally agree that blogging takes confidence (including shooting in busy, public places!).

    February 2, 2018 at 6:25 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That’s the hardest but it’s always worth the shot hun! Thanks Gab 😀

      February 2, 2018 at 10:49 pm
  • Reply Alessia

    This look is amazing! I love this post, blogging in general is always a lot of work and it’s true what you said about confidence. I have been blogging for four years but I still can’t take pictures if there are people staring.
    xo Alessia |

    February 2, 2018 at 11:47 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Aww Alessia! Hope you can get over that soon 😀 thank you!

      February 2, 2018 at 2:40 pm
  • Reply Daria

    You look so gorgeous! This outfit is amazing! Well, I cannot say that I enjoy it when people stare at me while taking pictures. Still, I learned to handle it much better than I used to.

    Have a nice weekend!


    February 2, 2018 at 11:44 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      It’s all about being able to carry on. I’m glad Daria, and thank you! xx

      February 2, 2018 at 2:41 pm
  • Reply Rosanna

    Really interesting and useful lessons, thanks! I definitely agree with practicing!!
    Have a lovely weekend 🙂
    Rosanna x

    February 2, 2018 at 11:21 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Glad you do! Thanks Rosanna 🙂

      February 2, 2018 at 10:50 pm
  • Reply Precious

    I love your outfit and this entire look. You look great girl. I started blogging not long ago but it has definitely taught me a lot. I have definitely learnt to be patient still working on my confidence though. Btw I’m still in university and balancing it all has been hard. I love the way you write. Great post

    February 2, 2018 at 3:50 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Balancing blogging and uni is hard. Reason why my blog only improved after I graduated! Be strong and manage your time well 🙂 thank you! x

      February 2, 2018 at 2:42 pm
  • Reply Emily

    You have great style and I love this classy look. Love all the hard work that you’ve put into your blog – thanks for sharing the lessons that you’ve learned!

    xx, Emily |

    February 2, 2018 at 3:37 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’re welcome Emily! Thanks for the compliment 🙂

      February 3, 2018 at 2:54 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    I love your style! Great post and blog!

    February 2, 2018 at 3:06 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I love yours too! Thanks Rachel! x

      February 3, 2018 at 2:54 pm
  • Reply Samantha

    “The more you create, the more creative you become.” Love this line, and it’s what I always have to remind myself, whenever I feel like I’m in a rut with my blog and whatever other creative outlet I like to do.

    Sam / My Beauty Cloud

    February 2, 2018 at 12:07 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I know that feeling. But like magic, we can still create something new! 😀

      February 2, 2018 at 2:43 pm
  • Reply DEMELER

    such a great post and love your white on white look!!

    February 1, 2018 at 11:31 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks babe!! xx

      February 2, 2018 at 10:50 pm
  • Reply LindaLibraLoca

    Patience and persistence is what I learned from blogging. And a little bit about photography.

    Anne – Linda, Libra, Loca

    February 1, 2018 at 9:09 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That TOO ! Thanks Anne! x

      February 1, 2018 at 10:13 pm
  • Reply Andreea

    Indeed, everyone has their niche and yesss, the more we practice, the better we get. Great post! Your outfit is on point. Have a nice day. xx


    February 1, 2018 at 6:01 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Glad you agree! Thanks Andreea!

      February 1, 2018 at 10:14 pm
  • Reply Sheena Sy Gonzales

    Loving the all white ensemble

    Sheena |

    February 1, 2018 at 3:21 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Sheena ! xx

      February 1, 2018 at 10:14 pm
  • Reply Debs

    You look so beautiful, first off. And I love your writing style, quite enchanting.

    Blogging has helped my confidence. I can walk into anywhere and speak. When I do so, I feel like I am blogging and a lot of people will read me. And the more you’d create, definitely the more creative you’d get.

    I am so subscribing to your blog already. I just bag myself a beautiful blogger friend.

    February 1, 2018 at 3:07 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I love that analogy!! So true 🙂 Ahhh I’m glad. Thank you dear!

      February 1, 2018 at 10:11 pm
  • Reply Ellapinkette

    You write exeptionally well. I’m guilty of not visiting other blogs. I hope to change that this year. Also, you’re the first blogger from Mozambique, I know. That’s amazing.

    February 1, 2018 at 1:06 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That makes me happy! Thank you 🙂

      February 1, 2018 at 10:12 pm
  • Reply Seun

    Nice read. You have a nice blog 🙂

    February 1, 2018 at 12:49 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear ! 🙂

      February 1, 2018 at 10:12 pm
  • Reply Bennymakachi

    “The more you create the more creative you become” . Couldn’t agree more. Beautiful blog you’ve got.

    February 1, 2018 at 12:43 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Benny xx

      February 1, 2018 at 10:12 pm
  • Reply Shannon

    Wow, I can’t believe English isn’t your first language. Your writing is better than many blogs I’ve come across (most where English IS their first language). It’s very inspiring.


    February 1, 2018 at 10:52 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Trust me I’ve seen that and it can be quite disappointing indeed. Thank you Shann 🙂

      February 1, 2018 at 11:57 am
  • Reply Marie

    So true, and very well said, darling! Blogging really improves many skills for us, be it writing, styling your clothes or even your blog layout. Love the outfit, and you look stunning!

    The Flower Duet

    February 1, 2018 at 10:31 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Accurate. The skill of styling and blog layout improve a lot indeed ! Thanks Marie ! xx

      February 1, 2018 at 11:57 am
  • Reply Pam

    I live by rule number 1! Also, some of the best people I’ve met through blogging…and you LOOK amazing! 🙂
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

    February 1, 2018 at 8:45 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks lovely. Ah, thanks Pam 😀

      February 1, 2018 at 11:58 am
  • Reply Alessa

    I love your outfit you look great, and the lessons of blogging are very helpful!
    Alessa Bernal

    February 1, 2018 at 7:13 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Alessa!! xx

      February 1, 2018 at 12:00 pm
  • Reply sepatuholig

    Those are great lessons indeed, and quiet positive! thank you for sharing
    IG @grace_njio

    February 1, 2018 at 5:38 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’re welcome dear ! 🙂

      February 1, 2018 at 12:00 pm
  • Reply Julie

    Beautifully written and I’m with you on all counts babe! I’ve been blogging for almost 8 years now (holy moly) and there’s still SO MUCH to learn/create/see/do/accomplish! Love that you’ve got that fire inside, never let the dream die babe! Keep up the fabulous work, so glad I found you through Jessica’s page!

    New fashion post talking about how I switched careers and found my calling, hope you’ll check it out babe! Xx- Julie

    Haute Khuuture Blog | Instagram

    February 1, 2018 at 4:59 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I’m glad you found me because now I’ve found you 😀 I’ve also been blogging for ”centuries” and still have A LOT to learn still – It’s a journey hey! Thank you so much for the wishes.

      February 1, 2018 at 11:59 am
  • Reply Simplement Lui

    Interesting post and beautiful outfit 😉 I like the “always try to improve” 😉

    January 31, 2018 at 8:53 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear!! 🙂

      January 31, 2018 at 9:21 pm
  • Reply Olga

    I agree with every point especially with the creativity one. I also believe that the more you create the more creative you become. Also it’s true that the more you engage the more engagement you get! It’s something I feel like I sometimes struggle with! Btw, I love your outfit in the pictures!!!

    Olga from Myme

    January 31, 2018 at 7:50 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Olga! 😀

      January 31, 2018 at 9:22 pm
  • Reply Tania

    I completely agree with what you’re saying, blogging does take so much confidence. I didn’t really get into it until 2015 even though I had been blogging since 2012, so crazy. I was so shy, and hated taking pictures of myself. For me it was a getaway as well. It is a lot of work, and sometimes, as a mom and full time worker it gets hard to create. This is when I feel a little badly because there are only so many hours in a day to create content, rewrite, publish. I do love it, and it is something so special to me. Love your content and how hard you have worked on creating a beautiful space. Congrats!


    January 31, 2018 at 5:24 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you SO much Tania. Lovely work. You’re DEFINITELY doing an exceptional job and kudos for allowing yourself to work on this passion 😀 xx

      January 31, 2018 at 9:23 pm

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