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7 Lessons from 2017


Location: Maputo, Mozambique

Last post of the year everybody and oh MY, what a year it has been! I still remember last NYE’s, when I promised I would make 2017 very significant to me. Feeling pretty accomplished because I not only opened myself to various possibilities, but through all these trials I was able to learn new things from experience. Experiences are our best teachers.

Also, am I the only one who doesn’t feel like the year flew by? I utterly felt every single month and I can even reminisce the feelings and worries throughout each of them. I guess I can blame it on writing a dissertation and counting down the days to graduation? Or on planning content on a monthly basis? Regardless of the reason, for me 2017 passed at the right pace. The feeling that I lived every second of it, is very pleasing.

Still on the trend of reflecting upon the passing year, I thought this post would be perfect for me to share the 7 main lesson’s 2017 has thought me. Let’s do this:


1. ”No one will do it for you”

Either you take control of yourself – make your plans and start acting, or just watch things go left. Delegating is only good when you’re remunerating said person. Relying on favors and other’s goodwill for your goals will never be a good idea. It takes energy to make things happen and no one will do it for you. Human beings are selfish by nature so its every man for himself. Take matters by your own hands and observe the results.


2. Only you have your best interest at heart

I believe that every human being that holds good sanity, has his/hers best interest at heart. It’s important to help yourself before helping others; it’s important to be fully happy with yourself before making others happy. Other people (including friends, family and parents) may think they have you figured out and that they know what you need at all times. They will always have some advice on what you should do with your life. However, I deeply believe that as a human we possess the capacity of knowing what is truly right for us – it’s called intuition. It saddens me to see people that make so little use of theirs and constantly beg the input of others to their lives.

To believe that you have your best interest at heart, to validate and act on your desires, is a great taste of freedom. It’s not something everyone is capable of unfortunately; many might be surrounded by external factors that hinder this freedom. So I guess it’s a duty of ”the free and aware” to make the most of it and never take it for granted.

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3. Making mistakes is amazing

It makes me sad that most of us grow up being heavily shamed for making mistakes. Be it in school or at home. I hope this changes one day and that the concept of ‘making mistakes’ becomes widely spread as a learning tool instead. Thomas Edison didn’t fail a 1,000 times, he learned about a 1,000 ways it wouldn’t work.

The reason why this year was significant to me is because I allowed myself to freely make mistakes, in all aspects of my life. I didn’t judge myself at all and I didn’t take people’s judgement personally either. As I result I feel like 2017 was a year of intense growth and I can’t wait to make more mistakes in 2018 – yeii haha.


4. Being flexible is amazing

When you’re constantly ready and unafraid of change, you put yourself in a position where very little can strongly impact you. In order to be in this safe spot, one needs to have an open and flexible mind. Plans and routes to fulfillment must also be flexible I mean, water is flexible and it contours every obstacle – something to learn from it.

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5. Hard work becomes a habit

and adopting all sorts of ‘productivity hacks’ is a way of developing this habit. Self discipline is the core and although it isn’t easy it’s achievable. Some people were once dead lazy and now they get a mild anxiety when they believe the day was unproductive. When you work hard on a regular, the ‘hard’ becomes easier and you start craving ‘harder’. At some point the harder isn’t hard enough! That’s when resistance has been somewhat defeated.


6. Thinking long term is the best

because although we moan about how short life is, it’s actually pretty long if we convert 70/100 years to hours. It’s all about making every second or at least every year count. Long term thinking and planning is a proven way for great achievements.

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7. Nothing like a family that loves you

I always feel a zest of gratitude when my parents or siblings do something significant for me without me even asking. To know that there are human beings that ‘have my back’ is so comforting and I don’t take it for granted. No one should. Although the first point is about how ‘no one will do it for you’, one can usually count on a loving family to do what no one else would. Maybe because blood is thicker than water? lol, who knows!


And these were the 7 most important lessons 2017 has thought me.

What about the lessons you’ve learned this year? Let me know on the comments!

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Yara Mel

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  • Reply Olivia Poncelet

    Love these lessons and happy new year !
    Nice pics too 😉
    Have a wonderful day !
    Olivia Poncelet <3

    January 18, 2018 at 9:45 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Olivia 🙂

      January 20, 2018 at 9:19 pm
  • Reply Beatriz

    Yara!!! Love this post!!!love the pics!!! You’re incredibly beautiful and write soooo well.

    January 17, 2018 at 4:37 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you Bea 😀 appreciate it!

      January 19, 2018 at 9:47 pm
  • Reply Andreea

    Indeed, hard work becomes a habit! Learnt some great lessons and love your photos and outfit! Wishing you a great day! xx


    January 16, 2018 at 1:38 pm
  • Reply Steal4Style

    Your sunglasses and your sandals are amazing!! So well written, thanks for sharing!

    January 16, 2018 at 11:00 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear! <3

      January 20, 2018 at 9:29 pm
  • Reply Palesa

    The one point that got to me was ‘Hard work gets easier’. I want to have that so badly because I know I’m capable of so much and all I have to do is work hard consistently.

    As soon as I beat that resistence my life will change. That’s my goal for the year.
    Palesa |

    January 14, 2018 at 10:01 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Exactly. It’s all about beating resistance! Read motivational books (ex: no excuses, the slight edge) – they help a lot in getting that kick 😀

      January 15, 2018 at 12:01 pm
  • Reply Lisa Offrs

    Love this post. And those footwears, fabulous.

    January 12, 2018 at 11:09 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Lisa 😀

      January 15, 2018 at 12:05 pm
  • Reply Gitta

    Wonderful lessons which everyone should take into consideration and acknowledge them. Beautiful written and you are just stunning. All the best for 2018!

    x Gitta //

    January 11, 2018 at 6:35 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Gitta. Glad you liked it. All the best for you too 🙂

      January 15, 2018 at 12:04 pm
  • Reply Zorica

    Great post.

    January 10, 2018 at 11:59 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Zorica xx

      January 15, 2018 at 12:03 pm
  • Reply sonia // daring coco

    I agree. The year certainly flew by for me. Mistakes are vital in life, there’s always lessons to be learn’t.


    January 8, 2018 at 8:49 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Agreed! Thanks Sonia ! xx

      January 10, 2018 at 11:26 pm
  • Reply bonjourchiara

    I do believe that there is nothing wrong in making mistakes, they help you to grow so much! xx

    January 7, 2018 at 10:49 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Indeed! Thanks Chiara 🙂

      January 10, 2018 at 11:26 pm
  • Reply Vaishali

    Beautiful post gal. And those footwears, fabulous.

    January 4, 2018 at 9:33 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot dear !! x

      January 6, 2018 at 7:36 pm
  • Reply Arteresa Lynn

    Love this post! Growth is beautiful. Congratulations on all your learned lessons. Wishing you all the best in the new year!

    January 4, 2018 at 7:19 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      All the best for you too Lynn !! 🙂

      January 6, 2018 at 7:36 pm
  • Reply Missy

    Some really good ones here! Self reflection is always good.


    January 3, 2018 at 2:26 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Missy 😀

      January 3, 2018 at 8:19 pm
  • Reply Marisa Cavaleiro

    Estou aqui com uma dúvida, mas em Moçambique não se fala português?
    Gostei das sandálias…

    January 3, 2018 at 10:07 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Fala-se sim! Tenho planos de traduzir o blog no futuro 🙂
      Obridada Marisa!

      January 3, 2018 at 8:22 pm
  • Reply Heather Rowland

    These lessons are all so true and relatable. I love how beautifully you right about them, you’ve done some real genuine reflection. The photoshoot for this post is stunning too – you look amazing! All the best for 2018!

    Heather xx

    January 3, 2018 at 8:44 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you so much Heather 🙂

      January 3, 2018 at 8:22 pm
  • Reply Jeanne

    Loving the soft and feminine outfit! Great life lessons. So true that no one will do it for you, there are just things in life that you really have to do yourself. And it’s awesome to be independent!

    January 3, 2018 at 7:09 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Exactly. Aww thanks Jeanne ! xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply Jen

    Love the recaps, helps a lot to focus on new and beautiful things! ♥
    PS. Stunning shoes!

    January 2, 2018 at 3:57 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks so much Jen, glad you do xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:16 pm
  • Reply Gemma

    Such a great and inspiring post! Happy New Year.

    Gemma x

    January 2, 2018 at 12:42 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear ! xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Mariann Yip (@mariannyip)

    Loved your recap of the lessons you learned!

    January 2, 2018 at 1:33 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Mariann 🙂

      January 3, 2018 at 8:17 pm
  • Reply Len Parent

    This is amazing! Love this look! You look great! Thanks for sharing!
    Have a wonderful day!
    Much love, Len

    January 1, 2018 at 7:25 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’re welcome Len! Thanks xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Nancy

    I love the photos and feel of this post. You have given some great advice, thank you for sharing.

    January 1, 2018 at 4:58 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’re welcome Nancy! xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Cette Belle Folie

    Wonderful! May you be as wise in the New Year too

    January 1, 2018 at 10:53 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks and you too dear !

      January 3, 2018 at 8:17 pm
  • Reply suresh lukhi

    This article important and really good the for me is.Thanks!

    January 1, 2018 at 9:18 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I’m glad hey! xx

      January 3, 2018 at 8:17 pm
  • Reply Lisa Offrs

    Such a great post! lovely dress.

    December 31, 2017 at 3:29 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Lisa!

      January 3, 2018 at 8:18 pm
  • Reply Ana

    This is literally the best 2017 post I’ve read, I think the lessons you’ve learned are the real deal and they definitely apply to everyone. I love how you styled that dress! I want to try it out!
    Wishing you a happy new year gorgeous! xx

    December 31, 2017 at 1:39 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I hope you do and I’m glad you liked. Thanks a lot 😀

      January 3, 2018 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply caoline

    You look ultra chic dear!
    Have a happy new year
    Xx Caroline

    December 30, 2017 at 6:41 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you! For you too Caroline 🙂

      January 3, 2018 at 8:19 pm
  • Reply Gabrielle Crystal RoseBonniee ~

    You are wonderful! Very nice article and lovely photos as well ☃ ❄

    Blog de la Licorne

    December 30, 2017 at 1:46 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you Gab 😀

      December 30, 2017 at 5:33 pm
  • Reply Kathrine Eldridge

    Love this post! Thanks for sharing your journey. I adore these heels. I learned that sometimes you have to sit in the pain of life but you come out even stronger and better on the other side.

    December 30, 2017 at 12:44 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That’s a great lesson Katherine, thank you 🙂

      December 30, 2017 at 5:34 pm
  • Reply Violette

    Your learned many great things! I love what you said!

    December 30, 2017 at 10:38 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Violette xx

      December 30, 2017 at 5:35 pm
  • Reply Nicole

    Beautiful write up and important advise. Esp love that ‘no-one can do it for you’ we all gotta take responsibility of our lives and get things done.

    December 30, 2017 at 4:29 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That’s exactly it !! <3

      December 30, 2017 at 5:35 pm
  • Reply Comfy Cozy Up

    Great post! These are some valuable lessons that we all can use to achieve our goals and stay strong.

    December 30, 2017 at 4:25 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Yes, they’re universal ! <3

      December 30, 2017 at 5:36 pm
  • Reply Amber

    Such an amazing post! Thanks so much for sharing girly. I truly couldn’t agree more!

    Amber |

    December 30, 2017 at 1:24 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Amber 🙂

      December 30, 2017 at 5:36 pm
  • Reply Andrea

    Thanks for sharing this post!! I have also learnt some of these lessons during 2017! I also feel like I have leart to be more patient with myself and others 🙂

    Hope you have a great start of 2018!


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    December 30, 2017 at 1:17 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Yes Andrea, patience is very important 🙂 Thanks and you too !

      December 30, 2017 at 5:36 pm
  • Reply Missy May

    Number three spoke to me for sure. I beat myself so much when I make mistakes, but yes you’re right about what you said. Its a form of education most definitely. Seems like 2017 has been a year of growth and insight to you. Great!!
    Cheers to a new happy and blessed 2018. You look great hun.

    December 30, 2017 at 12:11 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      It was indeed May! Oww thank you so much 🙂 for you too!

      December 30, 2017 at 5:37 pm
  • Reply Cette Belle Folie

    I love the way you write

    December 29, 2017 at 11:09 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you so much dear! Such a lovely compliment 🙂

      December 29, 2017 at 11:18 pm
  • Reply Olivia Poncelet

    Love this pastel look, your sunnies are so pretty!
    Nice pics too 😉
    Have a wonderful weekend !
    Olivia Poncelet <3

    December 29, 2017 at 7:21 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Olivia 🙂

      December 29, 2017 at 11:23 pm

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