Last post of the year everybody and oh MY, what a year it has been! I still remember last NYE’s, when I promised I would make 2017 very significant to me. Feeling pretty accomplished because I not only opened myself to various possibilities, but through all these trials I was able to learn new things from experience. Experiences are our best teachers.
Also, am I the only one who doesn’t feel like the year flew by? I utterly felt every single month and I can even reminisce the feelings and worries throughout each of them. I guess I can blame it on writing a dissertation and counting down the days to graduation? Or on planning content on a monthly basis? Regardless of the reason, for me 2017 passed at the right pace. The feeling that I lived every second of it, is very pleasing.
Still on the trend of reflecting upon the passing year, I thought this post would be perfect for me to share the 7 main lesson’s 2017 has thought me. Let’s do this:
1. ”No one will do it for you”
Either you take control of yourself – make your plans and start acting, or just watch things go left. Delegating is only good when you’re remunerating said person. Relying on favors and other’s goodwill for your goals will never be a good idea. It takes energy to make things happen and no one will do it for you. Human beings are selfish by nature so its every man for himself. Take matters by your own hands and observe the results.
2. Only you have your best interest at heart
I believe that every human being that holds good sanity, has his/hers best interest at heart. It’s important to help yourself before helping others; it’s important to be fully happy with yourself before making others happy. Other people (including friends, family and parents) may think they have you figured out and that they know what you need at all times. They will always have some advice on what you should do with your life. However, I deeply believe that as a human we possess the capacity of knowing what is truly right for us – it’s called intuition. It saddens me to see people that make so little use of theirs and constantly beg the input of others to their lives.
To believe that you have your best interest at heart, to validate and act on your desires, is a great taste of freedom. It’s not something everyone is capable of unfortunately; many might be surrounded by external factors that hinder this freedom. So I guess it’s a duty of ”the free and aware” to make the most of it and never take it for granted.
3. Making mistakes is amazing
It makes me sad that most of us grow up being heavily shamed for making mistakes. Be it in school or at home. I hope this changes one day and that the concept of ‘making mistakes’ becomes widely spread as a learning tool instead. Thomas Edison didn’t fail a 1,000 times, he learned about a 1,000 ways it wouldn’t work.
The reason why this year was significant to me is because I allowed myself to freely make mistakes, in all aspects of my life. I didn’t judge myself at all and I didn’t take people’s judgement personally either. As I result I feel like 2017 was a year of intense growth and I can’t wait to make more mistakes in 2018 – yeii haha.
4. Being flexible is amazing
When you’re constantly ready and unafraid of change, you put yourself in a position where very little can strongly impact you. In order to be in this safe spot, one needs to have an open and flexible mind. Plans and routes to fulfillment must also be flexible I mean, water is flexible and it contours every obstacle – something to learn from it.
5. Hard work becomes a habit
and adopting all sorts of ‘productivity hacks’ is a way of developing this habit. Self discipline is the core and although it isn’t easy it’s achievable. Some people were once dead lazy and now they get a mild anxiety when they believe the day was unproductive. When you work hard on a regular, the ‘hard’ becomes easier and you start craving ‘harder’. At some point the harder isn’t hard enough! That’s when resistance has been somewhat defeated.
6. Thinking long term is the best
because although we moan about how short life is, it’s actually pretty long if we convert 70/100 years to hours. It’s all about making every second or at least every year count. Long term thinking and planning is a proven way for great achievements.
7. Nothing like a family that loves you
I always feel a zest of gratitude when my parents or siblings do something significant for me without me even asking. To know that there are human beings that ‘have my back’ is so comforting and I don’t take it for granted. No one should. Although the first point is about how ‘no one will do it for you’, one can usually count on a loving family to do what no one else would. Maybe because blood is thicker than water? lol, who knows!
And these were the 7 most important lessons 2017 has thought me.
What about the lessons you’ve learned this year? Let me know on the comments!