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7 behaviors I’m leaving in 2017


Location: Maputo, Mozambique

I enjoy reading people’s reflections about the ending year  so I thought it was time for me to get on the trend! I haven’t seen anyone speaking on behaviors specifically so I thought it would be fun to do so. Here are 7 behaviors I am hopefully leaving in 2017:

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1.Putting other people’s wants before mine: Excluding the times I put other people first out of kindness, these are my selfish years and I shall honor them.

2.Trusting people’s opinion of me: It’s just their view based on how they see the world and what they deem to be right or wrong. How many times have you changed a fixed opinion about someone, because you got to know the said person better? Exactly. My opinion about myself shall remain the most valuable because I know myself.

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3. Going on dates with men that have second intentions: A relationship is the last thing I need right now. I do not want to give false hopes nor waste anyone’s time – including my own (precious AF lol).

4. Replying to ‘harrassy’ DM’s on Instagram: I didn’t do it this year tbh and I will keep it this way. ‘Hey gorgeous can I get to know you?’ gets instantly declined.  I love getting DM’s from girls because they’re usually decent, lol.

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5. Spending significant amounts of money by impulse: Having a part-time job as a waitress was a blessing, it thought me the value of money. Money is time. I was getting paid by the hour so before buying something I had to ask myself how many hours of work it costed. This analysis is now a habit so I always ponder about the expense before going through with it. I promise will ”YOLO” once I can afford to.

6. Sugarcoating my views to appease people: Sometimes in serious conversations, by trying not to be rude I didn’t get my point across properly. I ended up saying things far from what I was thinking and it consumed me later. Now, I commit myself to let the other person know exactly what I think and stand for. I rather regret saying something a bit harshly than not saying it at all – communicating my exact thoughts has become very important to me.

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7. Spending a whole week without exercising: It’s safe to say that a very challenging part of personal development are the physical habits. Gladly exercising became something that I enjoy doing at least 3/4 times a week. Thing is, if exercising had no direct impact on my well-being, I would probably choose to have a nap instead of going for a workout or a jog. How bad? lol. Weeks ago I had a small toe surgery so I was forced not to exercise for a week and although I enjoy lazy days – it wasn’t fun, I felt my body complaining too. So now that I’m healed, I look forward to never spending a whole week without blessing my body with some endorphin release!summer skirt


So what are your thoughts on these behaviors and what are the ones you’ll be ditching for the new year?

Let me know on the comments!


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  • Reply Desire Uba

    I will be leaving behind procrastination this year! It has taken up so much of my spirit and I am done with it! I am also with you on sugarcoating my views to appease people. No bueno.
    These pictures are popping!! Plus, I have these seme glasses you have on, so yayy!

    January 20, 2018 at 7:51 pm
  • Reply Sasha

    Great look!
    The bag is amazing!

    January 15, 2018 at 4:19 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Sasha!! Glad you like 🙂

      January 19, 2018 at 9:47 pm
  • Reply Palesa

    I really loved these. Mine has to be to stop judging people based on other people’s opinions of them. I’m moving to a new place so I’ll have to make new friends and I would hate to judge a book by it’s cover or what others say

    Palesa |

    January 14, 2018 at 10:07 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’ll need patience and empathy, making new friends is always exciting! 🙂

      January 15, 2018 at 12:00 pm
  • Reply Alexandra

    So beautiful!
    Love your post so much.

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    December 29, 2017 at 1:43 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Alexandra 🙂

      December 29, 2017 at 1:51 am
  • Reply Marisa Cavaleiro

    What a beautiful look, with very soft colors. Great Year 2018.

    December 28, 2017 at 4:14 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks so much Marisa !

      January 5, 2018 at 3:12 pm
  • Reply Cindy Elena

    Yes to everything!! Definitely I need to leave this things behind as well.
    Great 2018 vibes!!!

    xo | Cindy Elena

    December 28, 2017 at 3:49 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Let’s do it! Thanks Elena !

      January 5, 2018 at 3:12 pm
  • Reply Nikki Living Life

    This is the perfect time for reflection. You definitely came up with some good traits that need to be left behind. 2 & 6 resonated with me. So glad to hear that your surgery is healing well. Wishing you a happy and healthy New Year babe.


    December 28, 2017 at 3:25 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you so much Nikki! Very sweet of you 🙂

      December 29, 2017 at 10:43 pm
  • Reply Steal4Style

    Your are right making this choices. I should make a list for myself, it’s a great idea! Have a nice week!

    December 28, 2017 at 12:31 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Hope you do! Thanks dear 🙂

      December 29, 2017 at 10:42 pm
  • Reply Kemi

    Nice points – one that resonates with me is the point on other people’s opinions; I can get so wrapped up in this sometimes, and it’s definitely something I need to leave behind in 2018!

    December 28, 2017 at 1:51 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Yes please Kemi! Thanks 😀

      December 28, 2017 at 11:48 am
  • Reply Kara Aragon

    Great post! Those are all things that def should be left in 2017. I feel the same way. Especially the sugarcoating one! Loveee!

    Kara Aragon

    December 27, 2017 at 7:48 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I know hun? Thanks Kara 🙂

      December 28, 2017 at 11:48 am
  • Reply Gabrielle

    This is a brilliant post and I love some of your points and why you’re leaving them in 2017! Trusting other people’s opinions of you is definitely one to stay in the past and I’m definitely guilty of number 6 as well. Hope 2018 is a great year for you, Yara!

    December 27, 2017 at 5:25 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Gab!! 🙂

      December 28, 2017 at 11:49 am
  • Reply jasna

    Loved your post, I think we all need to do some of these things in our lives for 2018 🙂 xx

    December 27, 2017 at 11:42 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Jasna 😀 xx

      December 27, 2017 at 5:38 pm
  • Reply Len Parent

    These photos are BEAUTIFUL! Perfect styling girl!
    Have a wonderful day!
    Much love, Len

    December 26, 2017 at 1:55 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you dear! xx

      December 26, 2017 at 2:15 pm
  • Reply Julia

    I love what you said about not or trusting or dwelling on people’s opinions of you. It’s so true that your opinion on people can change in an instant, so it’s kind of crazy to think that we even care about what people who don’t really know us think about us.

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    December 26, 2017 at 8:28 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      It is indeed!! Thanks dear xx

      December 26, 2017 at 2:16 pm
  • Reply Jessica

    Lovely read dear. I love what you said on 3 and 5. Cheers for a more fruitful 2018!

    Jessica |

    December 26, 2017 at 7:23 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Cheers to that! xx

      December 26, 2017 at 2:16 pm
  • Reply Isra

    Definitely, #2. It’s like anytime someone views us in a certain way we might not like, we wonder… Is it true? And we feel personally attacked as if they would know us better than we know ourselves. Now if that happens I just laugh it off 🙂

    December 23, 2017 at 8:25 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Exactly. It has nothing to do with us 🙂

      December 23, 2017 at 12:40 pm
  • Reply Comfy Cozy Up

    Yes girl, leave them all behind.

    December 23, 2017 at 2:16 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Will do girl 😀

      December 23, 2017 at 12:40 pm
  • Reply Ana

    Hey Yara,

    I felt very identified with number 1, 2 and 6. Specially this year I discovered that putting someone else before me always turned out wrong. 2018 is going to be different!
    I really enjoyed reading your post! Btw, I just followed you on Bloglovin’ so I never miss a post!


    December 23, 2017 at 1:55 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I’m glad Ana, it’s gonna be good! Glad you enjoyed and thank you so much 🙂

      December 23, 2017 at 12:41 pm
  • Reply Dominique

    Loving these traits to leave behind. Impluse purchasing is something I majorly need to leave in 2017, haha! xx

    December 22, 2017 at 12:22 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I feel you! It’s not easy, but I trust you haha 😀

      December 22, 2017 at 1:16 pm
  • Reply Simplement Lui

    Very nice and elegant outfit! Beautiful and chic sandals 😉

    December 21, 2017 at 9:51 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you ! 😀

      December 21, 2017 at 10:38 pm
  • Reply Irina

    I love the outfit! Great color combo:)

    December 20, 2017 at 8:24 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Irina 🙂

      December 21, 2017 at 10:38 pm

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