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How To Adapt To Change

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Location: London, United Kingdom

It’s been a week now since I’ve returned to Mozambique, my home country. The idea of leaving Britain had been hunting me negatively for almost a year now. Although it didn’t completely feel like home, it felt right – super right. It’s a place where the resources I need to get closer to my dreams are readily available and my time isn’t susceptible to uncontrollable variables.

The weeks prior to my flight were filled with concern; I didn’t have the easiest time imagining myself in a completely new and different scenario. However, I admitted that negative thinking wouldn’t change the situation. I turned to the bright side and as the day of my trip approached, I saw myself more and more excited about the upcoming transition.

A big change can only be negative if we give it such power. Below are a few ways to turn a big change into something positive and exciting.

beanie-styleAcceptance

”Bloom wherever you’re planted” and ”Where God guides, He provides” are two quotes I kept repeating to myself. I began to realize that the simple fact moving to a country with a completely different vibe than the one I prefer shouldn’t be enough to crush my dreams and erase my established goals. Most importantly, moving to ‘wherever’ should never be enough to change the person I’ve become over the past few years.

I mostly owe the positive changes in my character to all the books I read about personal development. Therefore, because I’m sure I have developed the right mindset and personality to fight for my wants, I began to accept the fact that coming back home wouldn’t be detrimental to my plans.
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Plan

After knowing that my chances of renewing my VISA were pretty low, although I wanted to remain positive I had to ask myself ”Ok Yara but, if worst comes to worst and you have to go home, what are you going to do? What direction will the blog and the Youtube Channel take, aside from the other entrepreneurial ventures?”. Because I had planned my content up until January, I had to ask myself these questions.

However, with acceptance comes clarity and with clarity comes newness. By accepting that I was coming home I started opening myself to all the upcoming possibilities. I began to find exciting answers and generated a whole new plan and new goals in less than a week. It got into a point in which I was so enthusiastic about the new plan that, being denied the renewal no longer felt like the end of the world. Flexibility and creativity are amazing traits to develop.

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Optimism

Believing that things won’t be as bad as they seem, is a great start for one to become more receptive of big changes. I am not a pessimist and I tried my hardest not to be on that spirit whilst visualizing my new life. Things change and some of the aspects about home that I deemed negative aren’t half as bad. Deploying on pessimism and negative thoughts can be a big waste of time and energy.

It is also clear as water that I didn’t come home to settle, this isn’t the end goal.  All I am here for is to create a ground from which I can fly higher, be it back to Britain or to any other country of choice. To build such base will be a challenge but also a great experience that will undoubtedly teach me a lot.

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Silver lining

There is indeed always a silver lining.  My ambitious nature makes me feel the most comfortable when I am alone and working towards my goals 24/7 which was the case in Britain. Coming back home means less alone time and perhaps a less productivity – which scares me. But at the end of the day, this is the place in which I am the closest to the ones I love and that love me the most. I thank God everyday to be able to enjoy my parents presence and to witness family gatherings filled with love and laughter – it’s priceless. Pri-ce-less. So it is to be able to hug and squeeeeeeeze my baby niece and nephew!

And oh, I missed ‘home food’ so much. My plate here is always full…guess I am trying to make it up for all the time lost, haha.
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As I mentioned on my previous post, Mozambique is a hot country. I’ve been staying at home a lot just to avoid walking under the sun, since I don’t  drive. However, at around 5pm when it gets breezy, is when I realize how much I missed this weather.

I am excited to switch my style to Summery clothes. Already stacked on some bardot tops and I can’t wait to start styling and photographing everything. The biggest challenge is to find locations that fit my aesthetics to a minimum but I’ve spotted a few around the city, whooop!

For now I will continue to share my Winter style because I have ‘pre-shot’ outfits and posts that can be of good use for all of you in the North hemisphere. I believe you can always use some inspiration!

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So, did you have to deal with any big change this year or ever? How did you deal with it?

Let me know on the comments!

 
 
 

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Yara Mel

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53 Comments

  • Reply Katya

    Omg, I love your all black outfit. Your hair fits elegant with your look. You are very beautiful.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

    November 18, 2017 at 3:57 am
  • Reply Rachel

    I love your style! Great post and blog!

    http://chicglamstyle.com

    November 16, 2017 at 9:45 am
  • Reply Steph Dring

    Change is hard but inevitable. You seem to have handled the change really positively and flourished. Looking forward to seeing some warmee weather styling!

    Steph x
    http://www.wanderlustpulse.com

    November 13, 2017 at 6:26 pm
  • Reply Ven's Wife Style

    Love this look and great post!
    Kisses
    Renia
    http://venswifestyle.com

    November 13, 2017 at 4:20 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear! x

      November 13, 2017 at 6:52 pm
  • Reply Pentené

    Kudos to you for being brave and walking by faith and not by sight. We are learn some very valuable lessons in life and if we pay close attention we know what to change. A big change that I’m facing is divorce, but I’m excited about it and my new beginning as a single mother embarking on my new independence.

    Xoxo
    http://www.stylemefancy.com

    November 12, 2017 at 6:35 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Awww angel, sorry to hear that. But it is definitely a new beginning and that’s always positive.
      Let it be more inspiring than frightening! All the best to you, I’m really rooting for you 🙂

      November 12, 2017 at 8:05 pm
  • Reply Lade

    I love your style and your picture quality is beautiful!
    Great post.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog 🙂
    toyinwithfashion.com

    November 10, 2017 at 3:18 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you so much Lade! You’re super welcome 🙂

      November 10, 2017 at 10:38 am
  • Reply Gabrielle

    ‘Bloom wherever you’re planted’ – that’s incredible advice, how have I never heard of that before?! Will definitely keep it in mind from now on. Great photos of you by the way, as always; you really suit the pale pink beanie!

    aglassofice.com
    x

    November 9, 2017 at 5:53 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Gab 😀

      November 13, 2017 at 4:58 pm
  • Reply Steal4Style

    I understand your feelings, and I hope you get adapted soon to your new life. I had to deal with some similar things in my life when I was younger. And now I can’t even remember how I felt.
    Your total black outfit is really gorgeous!
    Steal4Style.com

    November 9, 2017 at 11:27 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear! It’s gonna be fine 🙂

      November 13, 2017 at 4:39 pm
  • Reply stylefrontier

    totally understand how you feel cause i’ve been there!
    but i know you’ll get thrugh it right. keep believing in yourself

    xoxo
    style frontier

    November 8, 2017 at 2:21 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear, I really appreciate it 🙂

      November 8, 2017 at 3:32 pm
  • Reply Jessica

    Lovely read dear. Indeed, the only constant in this world is change. Btw, your boots are gorgeous!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    November 8, 2017 at 12:48 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Wise words, Jess! Thanks xx

      November 8, 2017 at 3:32 pm
  • Reply Jenny (@Krystel_Couture)

    Girrll, loving this outfit esp those glasses and the bag they match really well! I like your winter style and winter has just hit us here so it’s time to wrap up and find inspiration! xx

    https://www.krystelcouture.com

    November 8, 2017 at 12:35 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I’m glad Jenny, Thank you !

      November 8, 2017 at 3:33 pm
  • Reply Missy

    Really positive way of looking at change!

    Missy
    TheFashionFusion

    November 8, 2017 at 10:42 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Missy 🙂

      November 9, 2017 at 3:20 pm
  • Reply Siffat

    Such a great post – I admire you for being so real! Sorry to hear you had to go back home, but I love how you break down the process of accepting change.
    xo
    Siffat
    http://icingandglitter.com

    November 8, 2017 at 10:23 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      I know hun! Optimism is keeping me going!! 😀

      November 8, 2017 at 3:33 pm
  • Reply Rochelle Fox

    Love these look you look amazing. Kill it!

    Good Vibes, Team Fox
    Stalk me @ http://www.rochellefox.com.au

    November 8, 2017 at 6:15 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear!

      November 8, 2017 at 3:34 pm
  • Reply Saida - She talks Glam

    Oh girl, I am sorry to hear you had to leave but going back home always has that bitter sweet taste you describe here so well. I hope you are enjoying family, weather and food to the fullest and looking forward to seeing those summery stylings! Big hugs,

    Saida | She talks Glam

    November 7, 2017 at 1:31 pm
  • Reply Shannon

    Great post. I love change & I think you’ve written some great points on how to accept it. I love your outfit too. Those boots are fire.

    THE FASHANN MONSTER life + style

    November 6, 2017 at 11:35 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Shannon !! 🙂

      November 7, 2017 at 7:28 pm
  • Reply Konstantina

    I love how you combined the boots and the beanie. You look sooo pretty !
    http://www.kmeetsstyle.com

    November 6, 2017 at 9:55 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Aww thank you !! xx

      November 6, 2017 at 10:57 pm
  • Reply Nevena Krstic

    Lovely photos, you look great! I hope you’re adjusting to your big move, it seems like you have the right mindset for it! 🙂 xx

    November 6, 2017 at 6:52 pm
  • Reply Marina W

    Love this chc and casual, model-off-duty look 🙂
    -Marina
    https://waitmarinawho.blogspot.tw/

    November 6, 2017 at 9:48 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you Marina 😀

      November 6, 2017 at 10:52 am
  • Reply Caitlin | Beauty & Colour

    Loving this coat!

    Beauty & Colour | Vegan Lifestyle Blog

    November 6, 2017 at 5:16 am
  • Reply Delaine

    These are great and accurate tips, reminds me of some changes taking place in my workplace.

    Delaine | http://delainemyles.com/

    November 6, 2017 at 2:10 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Yes it’s easily applicable! Thanks Delaine xx

      November 6, 2017 at 10:52 am
  • Reply Olivia Poncelet

    LOVE your outfit, especially your boots !
    Have a good evening 😉
    Olivia
    http://www.oliviaponcelet.com

    November 5, 2017 at 10:04 pm
  • Reply Federica

    Love your look!

    Federica
    http://www.federicadinardo.com

    November 5, 2017 at 8:45 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear ! 🙂

      November 6, 2017 at 10:53 am
  • Reply DEMELER

    such a great blog post! and love your coat
    xx
    http://thedemeler.com

    November 5, 2017 at 4:07 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear ! x

      November 5, 2017 at 6:13 pm
  • Reply Ashley

    Babe! I loveee reading this so much! I know how you feel and i think it’s inspiring to share your story with your readers!! So real! You look amazing and I think you will do amazing things back Mozambique. So us how its done babe!! Kill it!

    xxx

    Ashleye

    http://www.missgunner.com

    November 5, 2017 at 12:31 pm
  • Reply Natalie

    Thank you for sharing your inspiring story! I can only imagine whats its like to move country – you are very brave and strong! Love your style hun, keep on going! 🙂

    November 5, 2017 at 12:00 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot Natalie 🙂

      November 5, 2017 at 11:16 am
  • Reply Vanessa

    This entire look is so chic! I really hope everything works out for you – and I love the positive stance you’re taking on it all. Best of luck!
    Vanessa
    http://www.theretropenguin.com

    November 4, 2017 at 8:55 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Awww thanks a lot Vanessa! xx

      November 4, 2017 at 9:33 pm
  • Reply Kara Aragon

    Great outfit. You look amazing.

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

    November 4, 2017 at 6:24 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Kara!! xx

      November 4, 2017 at 7:32 pm
  • Reply Vanessa

    Love your style!

    Vanessa x | http://www.springlilies.com

    November 4, 2017 at 5:53 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks dear! x

      November 4, 2017 at 7:32 pm
  • Reply Jet

    I completely agree with mindset having a massive impact on experience and how optimism can make such a difference. I think it also takes time to settle; I’ve moved country before and I find that no matter how much fun I’m having it takes about a month for the ‘new normal’ to emerge. How are you finding it so far?

    p.s. your outfit is great

    http://www.jettravels.co.uk
    J.E.T
    xx

    November 4, 2017 at 11:40 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      You’re absolutely right. Slowly I’m adapting well and settling as well, thanks for asking 🙂 x

      November 4, 2017 at 7:33 pm

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