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Previously in ‘Weekly Quotespiration’: The Blessing Of Change

Introduction to Weekly Quotspiration

Today’s quote:

”There is something so beautiful about loneliness. How you get time with yourself to find out who you really are.”

My thoughts:

On my previous Weekly QuotespirationThe blessing of change –  I promised I was going to elaborate on the fact that days of pure seclusion are the biggest reason I re-discovered myself, re-evaluated my purpose and chose new roads to lead me to my destination.

Look, I deeply believe that loneliness – if welcomed – is one of the best vehicles for self discovery and creativity. I am such a believer and follower of this premise that I couldn’t even carry my last relationship further once I realized that not having my so craved time alone was somewhat affecting what I was creating and putting out to the world through my platforms. The moments I spend alone in my room, in silence, listening only to my intuition and inner voice are definitely a fertile soil for great ideas.

Unfortunately, for a twisted reason I know nothing of, we live in a world in which loneliness may usually be seen as bad and lonely people are supposed to feel embarrassed or pity themselves for not having friends or a partner.

I feel utterly blessed to be able to deal so well with loneliness or as I like to call it – sweet solitude. I owe it to starting this content creation adventure so young, when I was 17, which was the same year I left home to study abroad (no more family meant no more constant companies). Having a mind racing with creative thoughts and constantly finding ways to materialize ideas has always been a great way to conceal my loneliness and by loneliness I’m referring to moments in which I found myself with no friends and no boyfriend.

Bonus quote: ”You never realize how lonely you are until you have something exciting to share but no one to tell it to.” 

Sweet solitude is alone time. Time to discover oneself, make personal resolutions and come out with execution plans to make it happen without the variable of another person’s opinion. It’s another level of freedom.

I know people that have never experienced being alone, are terrified of loneliness and  always ensure they’re surrounded by other people. Such individuals usually crave regular attention and jump from relationship to relationship because they despise the idea of being with themselves only. Well, having experienced the benefits of sweet solitude I tend to feel bad for those who might never do it. The fact that some people will never find out who they really are and therefore unleash their full potential simply because they constantly and purposely surround themselves with noise makes me *sigh* a little. External noise most times is a significant block between where you are and where you should be if you could only be alone, keep quiet, listen to your inner voice and navigate through your inner thoughts – that is after all the blessing of loneliness.  Alas, to each its own. Happiness is all that matters.

If happiness is all that matters, I’m glad to say I’m very happy to be in a relationship with sweet solitude! And may this relationship last until something sweeter comes along!

What about you? Are you also in a relationship with sweet solitude or you despise being alone? Let me know on the comments!

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Yara Mel

 

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21 Comments

  • Reply lesley kim

    I love your today’s quote =)

    Lesley-Kim

    December 11, 2017 at 11:59 pm
  • Reply The pink pineapple

    Great post,I appreciate your sincerity
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    October 14, 2017 at 7:19 am
  • Reply Elena Isabelle

    i absolutely love spending time by myself and i need me time on a regular just to make sure i’m okay.
    ❤︎

    http://www.elenaisabelle.com

    October 13, 2017 at 6:29 am
  • Reply elise

    I love this post! So nice to hear your thoughts and different quotes, what a break from all the too-perfect kinda life portrayed all over social media. Love <3
    Elise | http://www.elisebythepiece.com

    October 12, 2017 at 12:56 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Aww I’m glad you enjoyed it! Thanks Elise 🙂

      October 13, 2017 at 11:16 am
  • Reply Fatou

    I really can relate to this post. well said
    xx

    October 9, 2017 at 10:48 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you Fatou xx

      October 10, 2017 at 8:42 pm
  • Reply Bronia

    I think spending time by yourself is so underrated, the best thing I ever did was learn how to be content with my own thoughts. It’s an ongoing journey but I’m definitely getting better every day. Loved this post!

    October 9, 2017 at 7:33 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thank you. Underrated is the word! Glad you find peace with yourself 🙂 xx

      October 10, 2017 at 8:42 pm
  • Reply Olivia Poncelet

    Nice outfit 🙂
    Have a good evening
    Olivia
    http://www.oliviaponcelet.com <3

    October 9, 2017 at 7:20 pm
  • Reply Morgan (@JustMorgsx)

    I definitely love being alone, I suppose it’s just my introverted side! Gorgeous blog and photos x
    Morgan

    October 9, 2017 at 5:21 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks Morgan. Definitely! I’m an introvert too ! xx

      October 9, 2017 at 5:38 pm
  • Reply Gabrielle

    This was such an interesting (and well-written!) post. You make a good point, I’ve also known people who have never been lonely and so constantly fear being alone and/or have abandonment issues. Spending time by ourselves can sometimes be a really, really good thing in the long run.

    aglassofice.com
    x

    October 9, 2017 at 2:42 pm
  • Reply Jenny

    I absolutely love that you’re so comfortable being on your own. I spend a lot of time on my own and have done over the past few years; since developing anxiety and not have a “conventional” job. I still live at home with my parents but up until recently they both worked full-time. I found myself suddenly from always being surrounded by people, going out, going to work, not stopping to being alone day in and day out. Although that time was bloody AWFUL for me I think it’s set me up for being more comfortable with the loneliness and spending time by myself <3

    October 9, 2017 at 8:24 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      That’s great to hear Jenny!! Really appreciate your story 🙂

      October 9, 2017 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Deanna

    I love this! I feel like people have forgotten how important it is to spend time with ourselves. To get to know ourselves better, to work on on personal development. Like you said people are so terrified of being loneliness. Spending time alone should be a positive thing. Thank you for sharing this 💕

    Dee // http://www.morningcoffeewithdee.com

    October 9, 2017 at 12:10 am
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Exactly! There’s no need to fear something that is so beneficial. Thanks Deanna ! x

      October 9, 2017 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Nicholin

    I totally love being alone. My only problem is when an idea is conceived in the moment of ‘sweet solitude’,I find it hard to go out and make the idea become a reality because I believe people won’t understand my idea and I end up procrastinating foreveeer!

    October 8, 2017 at 7:24 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Aww sweetie. That’s then confidence comes into play. Being confident in your decisions will free you from caring about those who won’t understand! Best of luck lone 🙂

      October 8, 2017 at 9:48 pm
  • Reply Nevena Krstic

    Lovely photos and lovely words! I think at the moment I’ve found a happy balance with sweet solitude 🙂 xx

    October 8, 2017 at 6:32 pm
    • Reply Yara Mel

      Thanks a lot! That’s awesome Nevena 🙂

      October 8, 2017 at 9:48 pm

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